90/10

I am seriously pissed right now...but then. I remembered this article mum's friend pass it to me that day when we had a chat.

The article was titled-
Discover the 90/10 Principle by Stephen Covey

What is that?

According to Covey-
10% of our life is what happens to us which we have no control over,
the other
90% of our life is decided by HOW WE REACT

I quote the whole example from the article->
"A man is having breakfast with his family when suddenly his daughter spilled the coffee onto the man's business shirt.
This is the 10% that he has no control over.

Next?

He cursed, scolded his daughter and she starts crying. He turn to the wife and start scolding her for placing the cup near the table edge. They start verbal fighting. The man stormed upstairs to change another shirt. When he got down his daughter was too busy crying she didn't finish her breakfast and missed the school bus.

The wife had to leave for work. The man rushed to drive her daughter to school. Because things were running late, he speeds upon the allowed speed. Got himself a 15minute delay and a $60 traffic fine. When they reached school, the daughter left without saying goodbye.

The man finally reached his work place, but he was rushing all the way that he realize he had left his briefcase at home. The day started terrible. And it seems to get worse and worse. He looked forward to come home.

When he arrived home, he felt wedge in his relationship with his spouse and daughter.

Why did all this happen?
because of the coffee?
because of her daughter?
because of the policeman that fine him?
or because of how he reacted?

Here is what could have and should have happened.

Coffee spilled, daughter cried, the man comforted him by saying, "its ok honey, just be more careful next time". The man went upstairs to change and brought the briefcase along. Came downstairs and saw his daughter waving goodbye before getting up her school bus. The man arrived early at work and cheerfully greeted the staff. "

See the difference?

The 10% was the coffee spilled incident that happened early in the morning which no one had control over; while the rest of the day which makes up the 90% really depends on how the man reacts to that situation. Don't you agree?

That, is the incredible 90-10 principle. "Very few know and apply this principle", but it works remarkably.

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I was walking alone back home after days of exciting vacation with some new friends. Grabbed my laptop and was all pumped up to blog before noticing that the whole laptop screen was loose! It's spoiled! I started getting angry. And i started pointing out by suspecting maybe the landlady spoiled it since i left the door unlock for so many days. Called my mum and she said "it was all my fault, why did i call her for?". Very pissed.. conflicts with a friend burst simultaneously. Consoled a friend and it did not worked out well. Plus Yien came complaining bout her stuff which got me into a worse mood.

Ahha..apply the 90-10 principle. How to? Pray/sing/shower/music/blog...All i know is if i reacted the wrong way, things ain't getting any better but far more worse. So thank you Stephen Convey and the guy that shared this with me.


:)